Julie Lake – Healing & Coaching

In every moment we have thoughts running through our mind, hundreds of them in fact. These thoughts are often about things we have or haven’t done, things that are in our past. Anything that occurred in a moment before the current moment is in the past. It may be a second ago – but it still is in the past.

And then there are all those thoughts we have about our future, what, when, how, if only…. This can lead to thoughts like ‘why haven’t’ I or ‘why hasn’t this happened’ or ‘is this ever going to happen’.

But what about our thoughts about now, about the present moment we are in. Focusing our thoughts on the past or the future stops us from really immersing ourselves in the present moment. This stops us from really allowing ourselves to feel the moment. It is part of our human experience to feel. Our strongest memories come from moments that are connected with strong emotions or feelings regardless of whether those moments were good or bad.

So how do you start to feel again? Breathing helps, it helps connect our soul to the energy of the moment. Giving ourselves permission to feel is also a major step, as is noticing how we block ourselves from feeling. Notice what you do in a moment when you have the chance to really feel your feelings. Do you do anything to stop or break that, do you brush it aside in haste to move onto something else wanting to appear strong? The way you feel or don’t feel has become a habit, a pattern of behaving or ‘being’. If you are ready, you can start to open up your heart so that you can feel again.

 Click on this link and close your eyes, listen to the words and breathe while you allow yourself to feel.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NZqs1d-NHXk

Love & blessings

Julie

When I mention the word abundance, the first thing most people thing of is money.  Our society is structured in a way that makes money necessary. We need money for all sorts of things. Having money allows us to do all kinds of things. We often associate having money with the ‘good’ things in life. On the other hand, the lack of money can make people very despondent, anxious, and fearful. It can take away aspects of fun, enjoyment and happiness.  

Abundance is more than money. Abundance is connecting with and feeling those aspects of fun, enjoyment, happiness, peace, love and fulfillment to name a few. Each day we have numerous moments where we can feel these emotions. However, more often than not people do not realise this. We tend to take such moments for granted.

Have you ever stopped to:

*       Notice how a child admires you, looks to you for strength and love.

*      Really feel a hug, rather than going through the physical movements of the hug

*      Stopped to take a slow deep breath and feel the air moving into your lungs and then back out again

*     Take the time to savour the mouthfuls of your favourite food

*       Close your eyes to remember a special moment in your life, and immerse yourself in those feelings once more

*       Jump up and down in excitement when something wonderful happens

*       Admire the country side or the view from a window, watching the different shades of colours as the sun hits the landscape

We can feel these emotions regardless of how much or how little money we have.  This is true abundance. These feelings raise our energy, help us feel better, lift our spirits and can reduce feelings of loneliness, fear and anxiety.

In the coming weeks, pick one or two days each week where you take 5 minutes to stop and connect with the abundance in your life. Then open your awareness and notice the little changes that happen. And when they do, take 5 minutes to stop and connect with them also.

Each week my clients all reflect a theme to me. While it’s “their” stuff, I know that what’s reflected back to me, is always an aspect of myself. And for me it’s usually the part of me that I am ready to release – the next layer of the onion to leave me.

A recent theme has been – a reluctance to change. It sent me searching to see where I am reluctant to change.

I found I was holding onto hostility and anger over petty little things. When I looked back over situations that led to me being angry – in each one I could see a mirrored reflection of an aspect of myself that I didn’t like. This gave me a new perspective of the hostility and anger I was holding.

I also looked back to see if I could see the “signs” of my reluctance to change, and yes in hindsight they were there. See how many you might relate to:
       Changing the subject
       Not paying attention
Even things like thinking: - 
      If I talk about stuff, ‘they’ just won’t understand
      It will work itself out, when the time’s right
      It’s too much effort, so why bother?
      ‘They’ have to change, then things will be OK
      I’ve got other things to do first
      ‘They’ won’t listen to me
      I can’t be bothered
      I’ve tried this before, and didn’t get anywhere 

The thing that holds us back the most from making changes is fear. If you can relate to my “signs” or have signs of your own. You can overcome them. I use the affirmation “I am safe” to help me with fear. Especially when my physical symptoms are fear related – things like cramps, indigestion, wind, hip pain, sciatia, body odour, eye problems, headaches, heartburn, sleeping problems – just to name a few. Actually, when I looked through my books I was surprised to see how many fear related symptoms I have had.

And yet I do not feel fearful – how powerful our subconscious mind is! I can see how some of my thinking comes from a place of fear though. It often can be the things we want most that stir up the deepest subconscious emotions.

How great it is that we are living now, in a time when we have so many opportunities to learn so much about ourselves. And use this knowledge to create the lives we really want to live!

Are you living the life you really want?